your opinion on alcohol vs weed and other drugs?

so to preface. i cant smoke weed. i get too anxious, paranoid and sleepy. it gives me the shakes, i can communicate and i get cold and its hard to sleep it off as it gets to hard to sleep.

im someone who likes a beer or a few. ipas to be exact.

my parent and partner claim its not good for me to have a couple or few beers a night as they say i can get violent. they classify every time i have a beer as a reason for me to act out but its not true. its built up emotions and thoughts that ive kept inside for so long.

my boyfriend will smoke from the time he wakes up from the end of the day until he goes to sleep. including bowls to edibles to dabs.

but it’s not a problem to him nor a problem to my mom even tho it may classify as an addiction. but bc its weed and not alcohol it’s not a problem. even those alcohol is legal (and im not over using each day despite him doing so).

what is this difference. i don’t understand.

if i were to take kratom throughout the day everyday would it not be a problem then?

i have 3 beers and they think its okay to tell me ive had enough when i know my limit. i tell the person smoking they’ve had enough and i’m stupid.

i hate this bias. everyone has different ways to cope. everyone has different tolerances. everyone’s body is different

i need some input. am i just crazy?