Tough boundaries or controlling

My wife and I can’t agree on alcohol and she’s now set a boundary that I’m not to drink at all.. which i reluctantly agreed to to avoid a separation but I asked if I could have a drink with my brother I haven’t seen in years and now wants to seperate again..

The problem is I came from a family of heavy drinkers and drank heavily while I was younger so it’s not excessive to me or my friends/family to have 4-6 beers. I’m now 40 and been with my wife for eight years and for the most part haven’t drank that heavy but sometimes frequent.

The issue is she puts limits on me (1-2 only) which I feel pressured to agree to and then I eventually break them and it’s caused a trust issue for her. But I feel so restricted and I like to have 4-6 on my days off so that’s usually where I get back to. I have no problem stopping after 2 just enjoy at least 3-4 when I do.

I know me smelling like alcohol makes her feel uncomfortable so this time I’m willing to not drink at home but I feel it’s a bit much for her to stop me drinking socially outside of the house.. and crosses from a boundary to controlling. She has also restricted me drinking coke and eating certain foods as well in the past cause not healthy so I don’t know. Says I’m free to do what I want, but she will leave.. I feel bad but I feel I’m not being me and conforming to her constantly is exhausting and I’m left sitting there feeling like a different version of myself